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I Prefer that your House be Messy

So we can be real with each other, ya know?

I have gotten really into NOT CLEANING before having people over. I used to do that thing where I would voraciously clean before someone would come over (usually another family) and then after cleaning, I would apologize for the “mess” (LOLOLOLOL – it is what most people do! WTF?! Why do we do that????). But I decided to stop doing that and just be real. 

When I go to a friend’s house, if it is meticulously clean, I am automatically intimidated. And then if on top of the clean, when they apologize for the mess, I feel a lack of authenticity between us, even though I know the intentions are good! 

And that’s the reason why I want your house to be exactly as it is. I want to see you as you really are, so I can be my true self, and so we can actually get to know each other and feel meaningfully connected. 

What do you think about this? Do you clean your house before people come over? Would you consider having people over with your house as it is right this moment? I realize that some people are truly meticulously clean people (shout out to my friend Angela who constantly picks up after everyone else on vacation!). What would you think of going to someone’s house for the first time and seeing that it is messy? 

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